Do you need to stimulate your sex life? Are you in a committed, long-term relationship, but you are stuck in a sexual desert? It’s time to spice things up in bed between you and your loved one.
Use these questions to stimulate your sex life. Some might seem kinky or flirty, but it will turn you and your partner on. In a committed relationship, you must be honest with one another. Get inside the deepest corner of your partner’s mind.
- Would you like to skinny dip with me under the stars?
Will you like to catch a glimpse of me above the water? What about under the water? Would that excite you?
- Do you like having sex with music on or off?
If the answer is on, which songs put you in the mood the most? Is there an artist who you find puts you in the sexiest mood?
- What’s your favorite part of my body?
Take this up a notch by having your partner touch it rather than say it.
- What kind of sexy outfit would look best for you?
What article of clothing do you like to see me in the most? Tell me which thing that I own turns you on the most and I’ll wear it in the most inappropriate situations. “You look beautiful in everything,” is not an acceptable answer. Make him imagine you in something sexy and describe every detail.
- What is your favorite and hottest sex position?
Do you like to be on top or on the bottom? What about looking your partner in the eyes and kissing them while you are having sex? Or maybe you like positions in which you can just concentrate on the penetration itself?
- Are you a good kisser?
If they say yes, their confidence will be super sexy. If their answer sounds a little unsure, spend a few minutes reassuring them you love the way they kiss you… all over.
- Where is the strangest place you’ve ever had sex?
In a public place, a public restroom, a clothing store dressing room, a closet or while driving?
- Where would you still love to have sex?
Keep a list of the ones you’d like to cross off that bucket list together.
- Do you like to have sex outdoors?
Does the possibility of someone catching you doing it turn you on?
- Do you enjoy touching yourself?
How often do you touch yourself in a week? What’s on your mind during solo time? Don’t be shy – frequency and top fantasies included.
- Where do you enjoy being touched the most?
Show, don’t tell. Grab each other’s hands and guide them to your sensitive spots!
- Would you like it when I moan (harder) in bed?
And what do you like your partner to be like during sex—loud or quiet?
- How do you feel about bringing toys into the bedroom?
If you both give a thumbs up, which sex toys have you used and how did you use them? What is your favorite sex toy?
- What turns you on almost instantly?
We all have that one little thing that gets our gears going. Learn your partner’s answer and never forget it.
- What kind of talk do you like in bed?
Please, just don’t say, “I love it when you call me Big Papa.”
- How long do you like foreplay to last?
Do you prefer sex to last longer or do you enjoy quickies the most?
- What is your favorite time of the day to have sex?
Do you prefer to do it as soon as you wake up or just before sleeping?
- What is it you enjoy the most during sex?
Is it the penetration itself? Maybe it is the oral? Or the sexual tension during foreplay?
- What is your thinking of giving and receiving oral?
Are you selfish about these things? How do you feel when you know you are making someone orgasm with your mouth?
- What is your fetish?
What is the thing you would like to do but you have no courage to do?
- Have you ever had an intimate dream about me?
Don’t leave out a single juicy detail.
- Do you prefer being the dominant one or the submissive one?
Would you ever allow someone to dominate you and to what extent? Have you ever tied your partner up or have you ever allowed the other person to tie you up? How do you feel about spanking?
- Do you prefer rough or gentle sex?
Do you like to kiss during sex?
- Did you ever masturbate with someone near you, without them knowing what you were doing?
Does the thought of you do something like that turn you on?
- Are there some things you would never agree to do in bed?
What are your boundaries for sex?
- How would you describe the feeling you get when you are having an orgasm?
Does the thought of it turn you on?
- Do you like to talk dirty?
Do you like to call your partner names in bed? Do you like your partner to call you names during sex? What do you enjoy saying to your partner the most in bed? What do you like to hear from your partner during sex?
- Would you like it if we film ourselves having sex?
If yes, would you like to watch it afterward? Do you think seeing yourself having sex will turn you on?
- If there was one position you had to have sex in for the rest of your life, which one would it be and why?
Could you only do it like that for the rest of your life or would it be hard?
- Do you enjoy watching me pleasure myself?
Or do you prefer being the one who does all the work? Would you like me to put on a show for you?
- Do you like the idea of getting caught while having sex?
Have you ever got caught and what did you do? Did you get embarrassed or did you keep going?
- What do you think about role-play?
If you must experiment with role play, what will be your favorite role-play? Do you enjoy playing games and teasing someone to turn them on? How would you handle the situation and me?
- What is it you like the most about your own body?
What body part of yours do you think turns others on the most?
- What is the part of your body where you like me to touch you the most?
Take your partner’s hand and show.
- Do you like to have sex in the shower?
Have you ever had it in the shower? Did you enjoy it?
- What is that one fantasy you’ve never shared with anyone?
Discuss the detail with your partner. If you can’t think of anything, close your eyes and imagine what you would love him/her to do and share it with him/her.
- Do I turn you on right now?
What would you like to do to me? Describe in detail.
- Do you think you are a good lover and if so, why?
Do you believe there’s room for improvement and which area do you think you could improve in? Are you as confident in your sexual prowess as you appear to be?
The golden rule in the effort to stimulate your sex life is to be open and honest with your partner. There is nothing wrong to experiment if you love your partner. Together you’ll find the key to the best sex for both of you.
Module 5 of our popular course “Keep the Fire Burning” focuses on the subject of Sex and Sexuality. If you are interested in enrolling for this course, contact us with your request. We would love to hear from you.
